Before I get on the question for the post, I want to define
Recognition, Acknowledgment, and Endorsement.
- Recognition: Recognition means recognizing that another person exists.
- Acknowledgment: Consideration of what another feels, thinks, or says.
- Endorsement: Accepting another’s feelings or thoughts.
Yes! I do find it difficult to confirm others when I disagree
with them. My way of showing disconfirmation especially at home is keeping mum
and refusing to express any feelings on the disputed topic.
Frankly if I do not get along with a person then I ignore him
because that way I do not trouble myself, or feel guilty of something I have
not done. I do not recognize them or
confirm them as people. But I must say
that these are very few people and I do not recognize them because there are
genuine fundamental reasons to do so.
However all other times, I consider about other’s feelings,
thought and ideas and I teach my kids to behave the same way too. Acknowledgement starts at the very basic
level by saying “Thank You,” and “Sorry” to every known or unknown person who
helps us or is hurt by us. For example
if someone holds the door for you, or you bang into someone unknowingly.
Whereas endorsing means responding positively to someone’s
say. For example comforting someone when
he or she is feeling low.
Just like you, I do find it very, very difficult to confirm others when I disagree with what they have to say or what they do. However, unlike you, it is equally as difficult for me to keep mum and refuse to show feelings about topics I believe strongly about. I do not know why, but when someone disagrees with me, I keep arguing and arguing and trying to sway the other person to agree with me. Agree to disagree is never a part of my arguments because I always have to prove my point. That is why I admire the fact that you are able to ignore people you don't like and not even think about them at all.
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