Everyone
has different views and ways of expressing love. These ways and means of showing love are a
mix and match of different love styles. According
to Wood in chapter 11, The 3 primary styles of love are eros, storge, and
ludus.
1.
Eros is powerful, passionate style of love that blazes to life suddenly and
dramatically. It is an intense kind of
love that may include sexual, spiritual, intellectual, or emotional attraction
or all of these. Research indicates men are more likely than women to be erotic
lovers.
2.
Storge is a comfortable, even keeled kind of love based on friendship and
compatibility. Storgic love tends to
develop gradually and to be peaceful and stable. It grows out of common interests, values, and
life goals.
3.
Final style of love is ludus means playful love. Ludic lovers see love as a game full of
adventures, challenges, puzzles, and fun.
For ludics commitment is not the goal because they don’t take love seriously.
I also chose to write about this section as my topic of interest! I found the different styles of love to be very interesting because it provides the word "Love" with a broader spectrum of definitions. I think the word itself gets thrown around with very little idea as to its true meanings and potential. Reading this section made me consider the different styles of love and which relationships include the various styles. Definitely gave me a better perspective!
ReplyDeleteI think having different styles of love isn’t harmful. The most important thing to realize is how to create a balance between them. One could be carried away with all the excitement in Eros, which is powerful, passionate that blazes to life suddenly, but the problem with that kind of love is, it fades out in the face of danger, or adversaries. So having that kind of love isn’t enough, one has to be able to put a mix of all and have one, as a solid foundation for a healthy relationship like the agape kind of love; it doesn’t fade out easily like Eros would.
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