What should you do when you have
romantic feelings for your friends? Was
one of the challenge in friendship I found over the advice forum of
friendship.com.au website. To handle
this challenge I referred to the section that elaborates on Sexual Attraction
in the book. Romantic feelings and
sexual attraction can create problems in friendly relationships. Any type of friendship such as between man
and woman or gay and lesbians might face this kind of challenge. To overcome this problem friends should have
an explicit talk to decide if they are going to remain platonic friends or
become romantically involved. It is
important in such a case to open up and express the feelings with I language in
order to establish a transparent communication and understand the friend’s
perspective on those feelings. If the
feelings are mutual nothing like it, but if not then it is good to clear the
air.
To be honest, I wish I could follow your guidelines regarding romantic feelings in friendships. However, in reality, I can't do it for some reason. Each time I find out that a close friend of the opposite gender likes me, I freak out and slam the door shut on that friendship. Rude, I know. But that's my personality. Rather than confronting that friend, I end up running away because I don't want to deal with the trouble of sitting down, talking it out, and feeling awkward for weeks after that. I'd rather just stop talking to that person for a while and wait until the awkward atmosphere wears off then continue talking as if nothing had happened. I do not believe my way of acting is appropriate though.
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