Pseudolistening:
is pretending to listen.
Monopolizing:
is continuously focusing communication on ourselves instead of listening to the
person who is talking.
Selective
Listening: focusing only on particular parts of listening.
Defensive
listening: Perceiving personal attacks, criticism or hostility in
communication.
Ambushing
is listening carefully for the purpose of attacking a speaker.
After
reading forms of nonlistening, I can relate why and how people react the way
they do by picking only some part of the speech, which finally roots to the way
they listen. I can categorize my listening as Monopolizing some times because;
I indulge in talking a lot about myself rather than listening to the person in
front. However now I will consciously listen to the person in front of me, and let
him speak. I will make an effort to react only when my turn comes rather than
diverting all the attention to me in communication with others and missing on
what others have to say.
Great blog post! After going through the different forms of nonlistening, I realized that I mostly engage in pseudolistening. However, I often engage in selective listening as well. I found that I especially did this when I was in a relationship. I would always listen to what my partner was saying, but sometimes it would go in one ear and out the other. We had very opposite interests so it was easy for me to lose track of what he was saying at times. It was when he said certain things such as, “My family thinks...” or “I want to...” that he would gain my interest again and I would focus on what he had to say.
ReplyDeleteThis was a great post! It was easy for me to understand from the example you gave. It really surprised me to learn about so many forms of non-listening. I fall more under the lines of a defensive listener. I am not totally sure how I formed this habit but I find myself
ReplyDeletetaking everything anyone says negatively! Similar to what you said with monopolizing, I am going to try to allow those to speak first and really grasp what they’re saying without assuming they are attacking me. I think that would be the best for all future conversations!